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Linda M.
Ellettsville

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Hi, I'm Linda.
I have noticed that several people have veiwed the forum but only a few respond or post a comment. I have found that of the few replies that I have received they have been very encouraging to me, reassuring to me, and helps my day go so much better. You may not think you can help anybody but just by sharing your experiences and thoughts, will not only help someone else, it helps you. You will be amazed how much if you will just add sharing on the forum to the list of things you can do to help you on your road to recovery. Come on, let's talk, it's not like we are weird or anything, we just need to open up and share.
Thanks for your time.
Linda

Posted: 25 Sep 2009 13:21 Back to top

michael nicholas
shrewsbury

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hi,linda,yes i agree it would be nice to hear from fellow sufferers and be able to relate too,and give and receive help and encouragement.
Because of my social anxiety,i find it very difficult,almost impossible to make friends,which in turn makes me question myself always,even though i try so hard to be friendly,and maybe overcompensate to much.a friendly word of encouragement goes so far and does so much,doesnt it?
best wishes,mike n

Posted: 25 Sep 2009 14:06 Back to top

Linda M.
Ellettsville

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Good Morning Mike,
Good to know that someone is out there that wants support through fellow sufferers. Do you have other anxieties other than the social ones? I have them all I think except the OCD. I am impulsive but not so much compulsive. I get hooked really fast on the shopping channels, but I gave that up and don't even turn them on anymore. I love jewerly and think I have to have it all. I have enough clothes to clothe 25 people easy. Compulsively buying stuff I don't need. I pretty much stopped that too. Must be from not having much of anything as a child.
Have you tried going out and saying good morning to anyone yet? Are you employed? I was, til April. My business caught on fire and we had to shut it down. I was working 7 days a week, 8-10 hours a day. And had done so for years. That came to a streeching halt with the fire. That really through me into a lot of anxiety and panic attacks. Things switched up on routine and effected me greatly, both emotionally and financially. It was an Alcohol/Drug Rehab Center. Now I am just at home with my 5 year old grandson. I take him to school everyday and pick him up. I get really nervous when I first get up and when I leave the house but as soon as I see the teachers that wait for me to drop him off, the anxiety just stops as soon as I greet then and smile and say just a few words and then I am fine all the way home. If at all possible, try to do something like that. It helped me.

Posted: 25 Sep 2009 14:26 Back to top

michael nicholas
shrewsbury

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hi again linda,
i was sorry to hear of your problems with your business and the fire,that must have been very stressful.
i am employed,as a goods on line driver,i really love my work,most of the time i am either driving or meeting the customer at their home on a one to one,so i dont feel to bad.its when i am in a situation of more than one ,i really struggle.i completely dry up and freeze,ijust cannot function,i cant find anything to say,the words wont come out?
But i do feel more positive and excited about the future now,more than ever before,i want to start living and enjoying life and be
happy and contented,thats all.
i just want to wish everyone strength and encouragement in their quest to be non anxious and panic free.
best wishes,mike n

Posted: 25 Sep 2009 16:02 Back to top

michael nicholas
shrewsbury

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michael nicholas said
hi again linda/eileen
i was sorry to hear of your problems with your business and the fire,that must have been very stressful.
i am employed,as a goods on line driver,i really love my work,most of the time i am either driving or meeting the customer at their home on a one to one,so i dont feel to bad.its when i am in a situation of more than one ,i really struggle.i completely dry up and freeze,ijust cannot function,i cant find anything to say,the words wont come out?
But i do feel more positive and excited about the future now,more than ever before,i want to start living and enjoying life and be
happy and contented,thats all.
i just want to wish everyone strength and encouragement in their quest to be non anxious and panic free.
best wishes,mike n


Posted: 25 Sep 2009 16:09 Back to top

Eileen B
Waterdown

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Hi Linda & Mike,

I had the same thing happen - be really shaky when driving to the store - do groceries kind of in a daze - feel amazing on my way home! Didn't know what was going on. It got so bad this summer that if I tried to talk to someone (new) I would get lightheaded and feel like I had to run. But, I made myself do it and it got easier. Now, I think of it I was already feeling lightheaded years ago when I left to do errands and thought may-be I hadn't eaten enough or something. Now, I know what is wrong, that is can be fixed, I have new hope for the future! I also started a hobby business, but I didn't need the $, just to get out. At first it was fun, but I was really nervous trying to promote my craft to stores. It was a hit, but after quite a few years the excitement wore down - because of my anxiety. Next year, my youngest starts KG and I may take it up again or find a different hobby to keep me distracted. What I really found interesting was that C. Linden said that anxiety usually happens to people with intellectual minds (creative)... makes sense. Thats the good news - now we have to stay very busy. The videos under depersonalization were helpful to watch!

Posted: 25 Sep 2009 17:04 Back to top

Linda M.
Ellettsville

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True, I caught that also about the intellectual persons. I too am very creative. Goodness knows I've created tons of garbage along the past 30 years that I've stored in my head. I have had a lot of good creations as well, for instance, I am a song writer, I can find deep meanings in phrases, very creative or imaginative. I can sing, I can dance, I am a quick learner. I can find a use for anything that someone else doesn't want. I am going to begin a jazzerize class as well. I have the paper work and it is only 3 miles from my home. I feel it will be a good way to meet new people, get exercize for this 60 year old body, and get me off my mind. I am used to dealing with people with addictive behaviours due to my past business so I know where to start now in replacing the old with the new.

Posted: 25 Sep 2009 17:41 Back to top

David Lonsdale
Bedford

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I completely agree with the creative mind, I am pretty creative and am always coming up with new ideas whether that be artwork, songs, poems, films etc. I guess thats why its so easier to think of all the weird things that could happen when your really anxious, its amazing what strange stuff u think could happen just walking down the road. Maybe this is why my anxiety has gotten worse because I have not been putting my creative brain to work!

Posted: 26 Sep 2009 00:12 Back to top

Linda M.
Ellettsville

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David Lonsdale said
I completely agree with the creative mind, I am pretty creative and am always coming up with new ideas whether that be artwork, songs, poems, films etc. I guess thats why its so easier to think of all the weird things that could happen when your really anxious, its amazing what strange stuff u think could happen just walking down the road. Maybe this is why my anxiety has gotten worse because I have not been putting my creative brain to work!


I learned to play the guitar(only a few chords)19 years ago. Quit playing after a couple of years and got it out today for the first time in 17 years. I've forgotten the chords and keys but I will look them up on the net until I can familiarize myself with it again. I will get a life. I will get my keyboard out come Monday and start that up again as well. You've inspired me David to use my talents.
Thanks.

Posted: 26 Sep 2009 00:45 Back to top

David Lonsdale
Bedford

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I also have a guitar which ive had for over 5 years and never actually learnt to play it, was going to start when i moved out so thats another thing to keep me occupied. I wrote this poem/song a couple of weeks ago just after my recent panic attacks maybe it will inspire others :)

my life is just a passing tale
written down in silent braille

I was once a boy not quite a man,
I don’t yet know who I am.

CHORUS
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Why I am me and im not you,
Why im sometimes shy and sometimes blueeeeeee.
sometimes good, sometimes bad
sometimes happy, sometimes sad.

I live my life in my own way
just trying t' survive another day

i always watch the world go by,
Often staring at the sky…
i wonder why?????

CHORUS
-------

I am me and im not you,
Why im sometimes shy and sometimes blueeeeeee.
sometimes good, sometimes bad
sometimes happy, sometimes sad.

And yet while I sit and contemplate,
questioning my own fate.

I realise that I am lucky tooooooo,

CHORUS
========

To have so many friends and family.
that give me space and let me be
yet gather round when I am down,
To pick me up off of the ground.

So I thank you god for my life,
Even with some pain and some strife.
Thank-youuuuuu.
Posted: 26 Sep 2009 00:58 Back to top

Linda M.
Ellettsville

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Nice work David. I am assuming you put music to the lyrics also? I can write songs, poems, but I never was any good at music writing. I use accompaniment tapes when I sang in church. I have recorded 4 gospel tapes back in the 90's so I need to get back into something constructive and I think music is on my list.

Posted: 26 Sep 2009 01:36 Back to top

David Lonsdale
Bedford

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Nope no music yet hopefully when i learn the guitar i may be able to put some music to it, ive wrote quite abit recently so may record an album eventually.

Posted: 26 Sep 2009 01:45 Back to top

Eileen B
Waterdown

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Amazing! that song is so good David. I feel like it is written about me :D . When I had young children, I ordered a course which would teach me to play piano. I was doing quite well but then got too busy with a young growing family. I have since done alot of stuff like web pages (learning how to load my own), and making & selling apple roses (roses made out of apple slices) - I even went as far as to die the slices into diff. colours (based on the season). It was fun, but I became anxious when I delivered them. I just wanted to be at home making them! Now, I am trying to build a site to adv. our cottage we got 2 yrs ago. We have it fixed up and now we want to rent it. My son did the site for his school project and together we need to figure out how to load it. ( www.at-the-beach.ca & www.at-the beach.ca/gallery) He is so busy with his social life (17 yrs old) that its hard for me to get him to sit down. Anyways, good news : 2 of my daughters are really good at piano, 2 of them are getting along with piano - unfortunatly I am not very musical - I was told by a girl in elementary school that I can't carry a tune - scarred me for life!

Posted: 26 Sep 2009 15:52 Back to top
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